Q. My husband doesn’t have a ton of friends and is jealous of mine. What can I do? I need my friends!
A. Yes, we all need a balance with our committed partner and friends. Friendship is important for everyone as it offers a different value than our partner. We fall into an unrealistic expectation that our partner needs to fulfill every aspect of our life and in reality - we have to find balance. Our partners can’t meet all our needs. This is where having friends, family, and hobbies help form our individual self. By finding the person we are- we begin to unravel our needs and the expectations that we have of others get fulfilled in other ways. Encourage your husband to find a hobby that makes him happy. Be supportive on his journey of finding his authentic self.
Shavana Lopez, LPC-S, NCC \ 469-450-2448
Q. My Mom reads your magazine. Last week while waiting for my dental appointment, I asked her what she would like for Mother’s Day, and she said that I should write to the Questions Editor at Suburban Parent magazine for advice.
A. Blake, I am happy to help you. Moms do typically want to be with the family on Mother’s Day, and are happy to receive a written poem or a drawing with a sentiment. And since I don’t know your age, I might say that making her a special meal, maybe with help from your dad, would be pleasing as well. After you sing or present your gift make sure to encourage your mom to take some time for herself. Maybe spend the day with her own mother or another mom friend. And of course do not let her clean up the kitchen, you should do that!
Editor \ Suburban Parent magazines
Q. What are some things to consider before becoming a foster home?
A. Fostering children who have come from hard places should not only mean you are providing a safe place for these kids, but also helping them heal through relationships, giving them voice, and seeing the need behind behaviors. Children in foster care have experienced trauma, and they are typically functioning in survival mode. Behaviors like stealing, aggression, and lying are survival strategies to get needs met. As a caregiver it is your job to figure out the need behind those behaviors and find a way to replace those survival skills with appropriate ways to meet their needs. CASA believes that all children are precious and deserve a loving, safe home that is able to meet the complex needs they have.
Sarah Barker \ Child Advocacy Supervisor \ CASA of Tarrant County \ www.speakupforachild.org
Q. I want to raise bilingual children. Do I have to understand the second language my child is learning?
A. No, parents are not required to understand the language their child is learning. The program is designed for each student to grow in their use of a second language through the interaction with native speakers from around the world. We, of course, welcome any parents that would like to learn the language with their children! Investing in language education is a wonderful and bold move, knowing that there is a growing need for a multilingual workforce in their future! Using online programs like ours, you do not have to uproot your family and move to another country to learn a second language; learning comes directly to your home, office or on the go!
Amalia Torres \ Happy and Bilingual School www.happyandbilingual.com
Q. Why is ABA the most recognized therapy for children diagnosed on the autism spectrum?
A. Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) is an evidenced-based therapy based on the science of learning and behavior. Therapists have used ABA to help children with autism and related developmental disorders since the early 1960s. Behavior analysis helps us to understand how behavior works, how behavior is affected by the environment, and how learning takes place. ABA therapy applies our understanding of how behavior works to real situations. The goal is to increase behaviors that are helpful and decrease behaviors that are harmful or affect learning. ABA therapy programs can help increase language and communication skills; improve attention, focus, social skills, memory, and academics; and decrease problem/harmful behaviors. A qualified behavior analyst designs, oversees and customizes the therapy program to each learner’s needs.
Kelly Walker \ Clinical Director Behavioral Innovations www.behavioral-innovations.com